Mother daughter reconciliation is the only good news that we have had from Zsa Zsa’s fall and subsequent operations. Francesca Hilton and her mother have reconciled during all of this tragedy. Mother /daughter relationships are never easy even in the best of times. When Mom has had nine marriages to some difficult people, even the best of daughters tend to wear down.
Francesca is the only child of Ms. Gabor and so she holds a unique and special place.
It is gratifying to everyone that Francesca is there to provide comfort and care in these very dark hours. There is no way to realize what her presence must mean to her mother.
There is a lesson here for all of us however. When we wait until a crisis, tragedy or surgery is ongoing in order to reconcile an estranged behavior, it is beautiful but also unsatisfying for all concerned compared to what it might have been.
It is always best to forgive and forget regarding those who are near and dear. It is wise to do so as soon as the dust has settled from the dust up. A reunion at a hospital bedside is never a glimmer of the light as compared to a reunion over a celebretory lunch . You cannot choose the setting if you wait too long.
Mothers and daughters especially would do well to take a note out of the book of mental health and reestablish contact with one another before it must happen in the ICU. Theirs is a very special and soul reaching union that can dampen both very much when that tie is cut. The separation effects every other relationship as well, whether they know it or not.
Social scientists tell us that our relationships with close relatives have a far greater impact on our health than medicine had formerly realized. Blood ties and closely held relationships are not cut off without tremendous psychological effects. The stress eventually affects our physical health.
Therefore, it is a very good thing that Francesca is there when the priest is called in and her mother is back in her own home. However, for mother and daughter both it is too little and too late.
To honor our fabulous Zsa Zsa and all the delightful entertainment that she gave to us, we can all choose to also just forgive and forget.
We can do so before it is as late in the day as to leave only the sunset to enjoy. It will bless us more than we can immediately realize. Forgiveness is also a very fine tribute to the example this mother/daughter have set for the rest of us.
Best wishes to Zsa Zsa and Francesca.