As a dating coach and matchmaker in the Washington DC area I am generally hit with the same types of questions regarding finding that special someone and making it last. In our highly political environment we tend to go straight for the easy answers and solutions without taking a step back and examining the actual dynamics of the people involved in each potential union. I call that having “Emotional Intelligence”. Its so easy to look for answers by placing blame on outside influences for our seemingly ongoing battle with solitude. The ratio of men to women is a popular excuse as well as the gap in ecomonic growth between the sexes and races and the disparity in education among active singles.
As intelligent, dynamic, handsome, successful, and beautiful as the Smith family appears to be the one that holds true is their basic understanding of the definition of happiness. It seems that Will and Jada both actually took the time to know themselves, know what they need as individuals and seemed to have found those complimenting factors in the other. Most people go through life not having taken the time to define their own happiness. Instead they insist on using the definition handed to them through ,movies, television, marketing and advertising and attempt to apply those core values. What’s clear is that the Will and Jada are confident individuals who know who they are and seem to be content within themselves. They definitely compliment each other. They make it sound so simple and truthfully, it actually is just that simple. So lets begin shall we.
Rule # 1
Know Yourself First
Take some time out and define who you are and your best and worst qualities as it related to building and maintaining relationships. This is the time to be honest about your past and present situation. Make a list of some of the highlights and low moments in the past and outline the contributing factors to the outcome of that relationship. Note: This is not the time to try and change anything. You are simply being asked to be honest with yourself.
Define Your Core Values Suitable for a Long Term Successful Relationship
Making a list of core values really helps to solidify the understanding of your individual needs and not that of popular culture. Being aware of what is important to you for a healthy relationship is essential in having the ability to identify others with the same value system.
Seek Your Partner with Diligence
Get busy finding your soulmate. Meeting people through matchmaking networks and online dating sites are all the rage and are highly recommended for busy professionals. For those who seek to go the online route I would recommend a few sites. Supported links: Match.com Chemstry.com eHarmony Plenty of Fish The Party Match
The Party Match
Located in Washington DC this matchmakers network takes the guess work out if meeting compatible singles for exclusive food and wine events. They successfully bring an intimate party of 10-30 busy professional singles together who are already highly compatible for a fun evening of great conversation, food and wine. This is a great network for meeting other professionals for friendship as well as dating. The locations that are chosen are some of DC’s finest restaurants and lounges. Register for our next event.