This series covers the use of a personal organizer designed specifically for mothers. The moms in Wichita have been utilizing this new tool to organize their lives.
The tool changes themes each week and takes six days of each week to hone a mom’s life organization skills.
The Sunday Sanitizer focuses on helping moms to assess their lives.
The Monday Materializer focuses on moms creating goals and vision for their lives.
The Tuesday Tranquilizer focuses on moms meeting their goals and feeding the vision they have for their lives.
The Wednesday Womanizer (no not THAT type of womanizer) focuses on moms nurturing their lives.
The Thursday Thingamabobber focuses on moms forgiving and forgetting various constructs in their lives.
The Friday Fraternizer focuses on moms socializing with like minded individuals while they volunteer within their communities.
Week one’s organization strategy focused on a mom’s spirit, while week two’s organization strategy focused on a mom’s physical life. If you have yet to start the series, be sure to check the offerings of the past two weeks:
Sunday Sanitizer Wk1, Sunday Sanitizer Wk2
Monday Materializer Wk1, Monday Mobilizer Wk 2
Tuesday Tranquilizer Wk1, Tuesday Tranquilizer Wk2
Wednesday Womanizer Wk1, Wednesday Womanizer Wk 2
Thursday Thingamabobber Wk1, Thursday Thingamabobber Wk2
Friday Fraternizer Wk1, Friday Fraternizer Wk2
Week three of the personal organizer focuses on a mom’s physical body. The Sunday Sanitizer Wk3 required moms to assess their physical bodies. The Monday Materializer Wk3 focuses on moms creating a goal and vision for their physical bodies.
So, on this second day of the week, get your notepad (or your journal or computer) and write down:
“Week 3 – Day 2: Monday Materializer – Creating a Goal & Vision for My Physical Body”
Mom, what did you decide were your five best physical traits yesterday? Why do you feel these are your best physical traits? What two traits did you list that you needed change? Why do you want to change those traits?
What was your overall bodily assessment? Why? Did you discover where your body image originated from? What correlations did you see between how you feel about your body and how external constructs may have influenced your body image?
What contrasts did you see between how you feel about your body and how external constructs have sought to shape society’s idea of body image? Did you find that you have incorporated any healthy or unhealthy ideals, attitudes, thought processes and actions into your view of your body image? What influencers have been healthy for you and which have been unhealthy?
What was the positive thought that you wrote about your body before you went to sleep?
Create Goals & Vision for Your Body
Mom, thinking of that positive thought and the five (5) physical traits that you love about your body, today you will create some goals and a vision for having, maintaining and sustaining a healthy physical body. These goals and the vision will help you begin to construct a positive body image that you can carry with you from this moment forward.
A. Envision the body that you are comfortable and confident in.
It is important to consider “comfortable” so you don’t overwhelm yourself with unrealistic expectations of physical beauty. For instance, some women would be confident being a size 2, but sustaining that life vision may not be comfortable for them.
Some women would be confident with a constant change of wardrobe or jewelry, but they may not be comfortable spending all of the extra money required to achieve that feat. Some women may be confident with bigger boobs, but they may not be comfortable with having to deal with the constant questioning surrounding their choice or being on medical standby in the event of a boob malfunction.
So, if you envision your body to be healthy and fully functional, what does that look like for you? Is it achieving a certain size, the formation of a physical fitness routine, not smoking, doing drugs, drinking and/or engaging in risky sexual pursuits?
Write down a realistic physical portrait that is comfortable for you.
B. Write down three (3) goals you have for your physical body.
You may want to be able to run so many miles without stopping, change your eating patterns or make it a point to go after the medical and/or dental care that you need.
You may want to drink more water, engage in more personal spa time or take on a hairstylist. You may want to dress better, do your makeup on a regular basis or invest in some sort of cosmetic surgery to correct what you can’t naturally.
You may just want to have a better view of your body as you strive to be healthy, some workout buddies and a desire to learn new ways to appreciate your body.
As you create your goals and body vision, be mindful that you are considering what is right for you; not anybody else.
So, if a boyfriend happened to mention in passing that he’d love for you to try to look like Pamela Anderson or Halle Berry, but you don’t look anything like these leading ladies, make up your mind that you are going to try to look like your best you. If he doesn’t like that, he can hit the road because you want someone to appreciate you for who you are, not for who they may be fantasizing about.
After all, why are they with you if they want someone else? How rude is that? Moreover, if they could get Pamela Anderson or Halle Berry, they’d probably be with them right now.
Be comfortable in your own skin and don’t let anybody entice you into being something that you’re not. You don’t have to be a movie star to star in your own movie. Just do you.
Also, when you’re creating your goals and vision, imagine how you’d teach the attainment of those goals and vision to a younger girl, teen or woman. What would you say to a child who asks you why she should be comfortable having the eyes that she has or the nose that she has? What would you say to a teen who tells you she’s self conscious about her body? What would you say to another woman who confesses that she’s had plastic surgery or thinking of having plastic surgery?
Then get really serious and think about how you would address the issues of eating disorders, smoking, drinking, drug abuse, obesity, cutting, and risky sexual behavior, with these same individuals.
What you tell them could save their life. Now consider saving your own.
Healthy or Unhealthy?
Today, you are only going to consider those constructs that are healthy as it relates to having a healthy physical body and a positive body image. You are not going to consider what you call “physical imperfections” as a negative; rather you are going to look at how those traits help you to be the individual that you are.
Think of the two traits that you’d like to change, along with any unhealthy influencers of your body and body image.
On your notebook, write down what you appreciate about those traits. Also write down what the unhealthy influencers taught you about your physical body.
For instance, if you feel you need to lose weight, how has carrying extra weight changed your perspective on beauty? If you smoke regularly, how has your body responded to tell you that you need to take better care of it? If you feel you need to exercise more, what has the lack of exercise taught you about your body’s ability to survive in the world?
Now, do your body a favor and take it to the next level. Do right by your physical shell, while you appreciate the gifts and the grace that have been bestowed upon your body so far.
Think About It
As you go about your day today, appreciate the body that you are currently in. Think of how you will throw off any negative external expectations of what your body should be. Consider what you’d tell others if you were teaching them about body image and the constructs that affect that body image.
Before you go to bed, write down what you taught another and what you taught yourself today about body image. Then, write down one way that you’re going to get going on meeting a goal tomorrow. Get excited that you are about to make change.
Wake up and write down any insight you got from your dream that may enable you to reach your goals and get one step closer to your ideal physical vision.
Then come back here to utilize the personal organizer to meet your goals and vision for your physical body.
The Monday Materializer is part of a four week series designed to aid single moms in organizing the day to day aspects of their lives. Make sure you don’t miss tomorrow’s segment, the Tuesday Tranquilizer, which focuses on helping moms to meet goals by feeding the vision they have for various aspects of their lives. Simply click on the subscribe button up top (if you haven’t already) to be notified by email when the new article is released (and all of the rest in the series).
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