Most of us are in relationships or wouldn’t mind being in a relationship. Something that is common to many relationships is that they may start off great then begin a downward spiral or weird unwanted transformation that often starts from the minute we meet someone. Let’s examine some of the reasons that our relationships go downhill.
How many of us are guilty of putting more time, energy and resources into our friends, work and leisure activities than we do our partner? Once we get the guy or girl we stop doing all the good stuff or we don’t do it as often as it takes to maintain a healthy and viable relationship. We stop spending quality time together. We stop communicating. We stop trying to do our best. I know there are plenty of other activities that demand our time and attention but instead of making excuses we should make things happen. There are three things that I see as being vital to maintaining a healthy relationship. We should always communicate, compromise and be courteous. Let’s start with the first C- Communication: When things bother us we fail to push through and talk with our partners. We let time and space come between us until things are awkward with each other and then we just let the idea go. Compromise: Often we want things our way and we don’t care how our partner feels about it. Courtesy: How often do we say thank you or please with a pleasant demeanor?
The remedies: Communication: Talk to you partner no matter how difficult it is. There is no perfect time but there may be an ideal time to communicate. Go for it and talk with your partner. You can talk about things that bother you or you and your partner can list three things that you can work on. Ok, now, whatever you want your partner to work on you should help them reach the goal. Be a part of the solution and be mindful of your partner’s feelings. Don’t be hurtful. Compromise: Things don’t have to be your way all the time. Work around schedules and deadlines. Try to overcome hang-ups and letting your past experiences affect your current situations. Courtesy: The best way to view this is how would we want someone to approach us, talk to us or treat us? Courtesy goes along with consideration. If we think about how we want to be treated and mirror or reflect that behavior then you’re on the right track. Anything worth having is worth working for. Love don’t cost a thing but a good relationship takes hard work, dedication and commitment. Let’s get started!