It is important to learn new techniques on mastering your anger!
When you get frustrated, see how you are elevating your blood pressure up and down and need to chill; if necessary imagine a gigantic pitcher of ice cubes being poured over your head to cool yourself down if it helps! Wait and collect your thoughts before you express yourself! There is a thing as “healthy anger!”
There are some benefits to having a spouse who is truly a partner! You can both choose to grow spiritually and work together building a loving safe healthier environment!
This does not mean that you will respond perfectly every time! Learn to become responsible with your anger! See each time as an opportunity to learn how to exercise more and more self control.
It can be really helpful to begin to keep a gratitude journal! This helps you to replace the anger with something positive! Make sure that you write something that you are thankful for each day! Read it frequently!
If you are the other spouse; don’t further agitate your spouse when you know they are struggling with anger!
Companionship care and concern can be beautiful! A spouse is supposed to be a “helpmate!” Trust, intimacy and transparency can become permanent components of your marriage. You can custom design an amicable enjoyable marriage!
You want your spouse to be the best they can be! It takes time to learn how to be patient and understanding. Working through replacing faulty core beliefs and replacing them with trust encourages your spouse to become more transparent. Sharing physical, emotional and intellectual closeness draws you closer. You embrace the value of redemptive confrontation and use healthier ways to deal with issues as they arise!
Begin embracing walking in meekness which is power under control. Walking the spiritual path helps immensely! Your marriage will flourish!
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control against such things is no law…” Galatians 5. God’s fruit becomes the barometer by which you balance your responses. When you respond properly these principles begin operating within you as you grow spiritually! You get better at this as you put it into practice! Have you ever heard “practice makes perfect” well it’s really “practice makes permanent?”
As a child of God know, through Jesus Christ you are somebody! We have been created “in His image.” His Spirit will manifest within us as we walk in obedience! As your anger lessens you will gain more inner self worth. Trust God and his Word! Begin meditating on his Word and implementing his principles daily! His light will begin to shine through you as you do! Know; the Lord is your shepherd! He can truly help you in every way! “Jesus came that you might have “life more abundantly…” John 10.
“Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his lips from deceitful speech. He must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteousness and His ears are attentive to their prayers…” I Peter 3.
Life is precious and each day is a gift from God! Learning creative ways to get a handle on your anger is important! You want to begin to spend quality time each day loving your spouse! Enjoying your partner and rekindling the “embers of love.” Make sure that you schedule a weekly marriage date, building wonderful and better memories! You do not have to wait until something happens in order to realize how much you love and appreciate one another. You can start right now by building a healthier, better: “Marriage God’s way!”