In part one of this series on disciplining children the foundational elements of the parent’s role in the family versus the child’s role will be examined. To provide proper discipline, there must be a plan. This plan must have basic principles from which it operates that can then be used to create the details of the plan.
You need to first look at the word “discipline.” Discipline comes from the word disciple. A disciple is a student and the process of training the student is discipleship. We can get the original meaning of discipleship using the Noah Webster’s 1828 Dictionary of the American Language. There it is defined as: to teach, to train, to bring up. To make disciples of, to convert to doctrines or principles.
Discipline’s goal is to teach a child, not to punish a child, so that the child will learn the correct way of behavior. The goal of punishment is to make a child “pay a penalty” for what they have done wrong. The word penitentiary comes from the same word as penalty. If your goal is to “punish” or “penalize” a child for what they have done wrong, then you are not disciplining them and their behaviors will be motivated out of fear and distrust.
Discipline or discipleship has four parts that make up its foundation:
1. Our Culture: the “system” of shared beliefs, values, customs and behaviors that people in a society use to cope with their world and one another and are transmitted from generation to generation through learning. Culture comes from the same root as the word “cult”, which we will later see is a product of a “religion.”
2. Our thoughts: the actions and operations of our mind created by the culture, our own thoughts and ideas, which create our “worldview.”
3. Our worldview: the deeply held convictions and beliefs about truth created by our thoughts and used to create our “religion” or standards of conduct.
4. Our religion: the standards of conduct we use to guide our customs and behaviors, which are a product of our world view and influence our culture.
In part two of our series we will look at how these four parts work together to form a basis of a plan of discipline. If you have any questions you would like addressed or need more information about child discipline go to www.selahmountain.com or www.wisdom4today.org.