Relationships can be horrifically painful at times. Unless we clear away the wreckage of our past we will not be able to draw clarity on now and the future. There comes a time when you must confront forgive and then bury those failed relationships and hurts. If by chance you had a rotten childhood and your relationship with your father is estranged or worse he violated you sexually or otherwise then it might be hard to establish trust and wholesome healthy relationships with other people depending whom you are attracted to. That horrid memory might haunt you into your 30s and then you might wonder why you have had failed marriages and relationships in general. It might be time to face the boogie man.
The strength that you hold within yourself will shine and be seen by others. Have you ever noticed how people are drawn to you because you show you are unbreakable. Even if you are really fragile and timid. The strength to overcome those past experiences make current situations easier to endure. There are going to be people that come in your life for: A Season, A reason and A Lifetime. Unless you let go of your jaded past you will not know the difference for one and two you might over react for no reason.
I remember not that long ago calling home and speaking to my father and he told me when you let go of people and situations from your past: ” You make the sign of the cross and throw dirt on the dead” Because these jaded memories are in your past not your present which in essence is a gift. Since everyday above ground is a miracle and two we are not promised tomorrow. Write a letter to your “boogie man” face him head on, don’t recreate the memory don’t look him in the face. Find yourself a quiet place where you can sit with a pen and paper and write it all down. And when your done rip it up into tiny pieces and set fire to them in an open non flammable area. Say the serenity prayer: Repeat after me:
God Grant me the Serenity,
To Accept the things I can not change
The courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Interestingly enough the prayer is used in most 12 step recovery programs which are not affiliated with religion but spirituality.
There is a big difference between them.
Now that you may have had your moment of clarity it is time to throw dirt on the dead. Take the ashes outside and throw them into the wind. Close your eyes for a moment and let yourself breathe. Feel the air on your skin and let go of all those bad feelings. It takes time to get over things and nothing will be over night but you will know when your ready to let go. After all the sun always comes out after the rain.