It’s your typical Tuesday afternoon and you login into your Facebook account. Your news feed reads: “[Insert name here] is no longer listed as ‘In a relationship.’” You think to yourself: “Oh no, [so and so] and [what’s his name] were together for so long, I wonder what happened.” So you do what everyone does: you comment on the post. That’s what it’s there for, right? You may think it’s ludicrous, and wonder what has come of the world, but you do it anyway.
You do it because we are all living in the technology generation. Let me rephrase that: the technology obsessed generation. The world lives through social networking because of its convenience, and also because it’s a great way to keep in touch. However, it is definitely being overused. It’s taking the personal part out of all relationships, friendships, and break ups.
Right now, a majority of people in the world use some sort of social networking site, and for the Boston area, it is unusual for a person to not have a Facebook account. I mean, come on, how else will you learn the latest gossip on who broke up with who? Ask around – tweens, teens, and adults are all participating. But yet, the question remains: why does a social networking site need to determine the status of someone’s personal relationship? Why is it that a break up isn’t “official” until it’s “Facebook official?” We are all guilty as charged; we have all done it. Either after a break up, or entering a new relationship, we have all changed our relationship status and broadcast the change to the world.
A lot of common conversations now are about something someone read on Facebook, i.e., “Oh did you hear Joe and Sue broke up?” Let’s face it: if you were really someone’s friend, you wouldn’t need to learn about their break up on Facebook. They would have told you personally. After a break up, you can be feeling one of two things: desperate to change your status to “single,” or ashamed, hurt, and not wanting the sympathy that you will receive if you do change your relationship status to “single.” To avoid this whole mess, it’s simple: don’t put anything. If you don’t feel like dealing with the comments and “likes” on your new relationship status – don’t put one at all. Leave it blank. No one needs to know. By leaving your relationship status out of your profile information all together, it will eliminate drama – and a lot of it, too.
If you are sick of the sympathy or questions that get bestowed upon you after a break up, fight the temptation and don’t give in to the social networking drama. Keep your personal life, personal. After a break up switch your status to the blank box. Now, for someone to know you are single they will have to – gasp – talk to you. How 1999 is that.