We often talk ourselves out of the things we really want. No more so, than in dating.
Sometimes this is because we honestly can’t have it or the chances of us actually getting what we want are so slim that we talk ourselves out of it. Such as dreaming over a celebrity or winning the lottery.
But what we often forget is that we are amazing. Each one of us is amazing. And each one of us is amazed by something different.
Some of us love beauty. Some would rather laugh. Some would rather a mental challenge. Some just want comfortable arms to hold them.
We all have slightly different criteria of what it is we want, and we all have different skills and attributes to bring to the table that make us each unique and amazing.
It’s the “what we deserve” thinking that is the most problematic. Many of us often downgrade what we want, because we think that is what we deserve. Others upgrade what they truely want, because that is what they think they deserve.
Instead, make a list. What is it that you truly want? What is it that you truly need in another person?
Then compare that list to people you have loved or longed for in the past. Do those criteria match up? What was it about that past relationship that really made you happy?
Was it merely that they were so attractive it made your friends jealous? Or was it that they knew just how to make you smile when you were having a bad day?
The true answers might surprise you.
When you truly know what it is you need to be happy, you’ll find the world is full of potential possibilities and you’ll never find yourself settling for less.