Sex is great. When it becomes predictable, however, it becomes less exciting. It is very easy to get in marital rut when it comes to sex. Fatigue, familiarity, and predictability can all help dig the grave to a once vibrant sex life.
Sometimes we let fear get in the way of trying new things. We get too hung up on what our partner will think, or our lack of experience in trying something new. As a result, we never even give those things a try. The worst that could happen is that you might feel silly and you and your partner will have a good laugh together.
Stephanie H. of Charlotte spoke to me about an incident with her husband in which this very thing happened. They were trying to rev up their sex life and decided to try a new position. As she was in the process of getting in the right place to make it happen, she felt so ridiculous that she started laughing. Soon her husband was laughing too. The end result was a very passionate lovemaking session. They did not accomplish the new position, but the laughter they shared together over just trying something new sparked something inside of them that led to some very hot sex.
Here are some tips to help you rev up your sexual relationship with your spouse. Don’t be afraid to use your imagination!
-Read an erotic story together in bed
-Give each other a massage with scented oils
-Do not have intercourse for two weeks, but continue to allow one another access in every other way
-Take an erotic shower together
-Take some strawberries and whipped cream to bed…and be creative
-Blindfold your spouse and do lots of erotic teasing
-How about an erotic spanking?
-Light bondage with scarves or rope
-Role play ( there are so many to choose from!)
-Flirt with your spouse throughout the day with sexy text messages, emails.
-Whisper in your spouse’s ear what is going to happen as soon as the workday is through. (make it hot and sexy).
-Greet your spouse at the door in something sexy…or in nothing at all.
-Watch a hot movie together
-Don’t limit sex to the bedroom.
-Don’t be afraid to explore your fantasies.
These are just a few ideas. Get creative and make some of your own. Talk to your spouse and get more ideas. Take the time to be mindful about your sex life and you won’t regret it.