Show your feelings to the one you love. Do not take for granted that they know how special they are to you. The biggest complaint that all marriage councilors hear is that the other person does not care about them any more. This is expressed by both parties in different ways. Men tend to say things like “she is no longer intimate”, or “she spends too much”, and even “all she does is nag.” Women seem to share things like “he doesn’t open doors,” or “we never talk anymore,” and “it’s like I’m not even there.” All of these things mean the same basic things. The attention that was shown during the beginning of the relationship has been lost.
Think about the times when you first got together. How long do you think he or she would have stayed around if you had acted the way you do right now in your relationship? Be honest with yourself, and think about how much effort you put into the beginning of your life together. Back when you did not know if you would even get another date with this person. Are you still putting that much effort into your relationship now?
One thing that works for yourselves and your relationships with those you love, is to think openly and honestly about what efforts you give to those you care about. When doing so, temper those thoughts with a little taste of reality about what we want for ourselves. Do you want to reach your own graveside and find that you did not spend enough time at work? Or maybe you wanted to show your boss that you could have done more for the company than you did by simply giving more of your life to that company? Would you like to see that the person you care about enough to spend your life with is also the person that gets the most attention and rarely, if ever, has to wonder what they mean to you?
Rule number one in any relationship is communication. Remember that and you will be able to accomplish much more than you ever thought possible. Communication is key to everything in life. Lack of communication is the fastest way to lose at everything. If you love the one you are with, then let them know. Telling those around you is good but showing is even better. Communication is not just verbal. Show that person you love how much they mean to you each and everyday and they will stay filled with that love and know how much they mean to you. Give that person the effort they deserve and watch how well they respond to that effort. You may find that you receive more than you were expecting.