Power. It’s something that each of us has that helps us lead others, do complicated tasks, and formulate plans of action. It can shape our world and those around us. Our families, our co-workers, and we, rely on having some control and some level of power to make decisions.
What happens when you are left powerless? You have no tools to deal with the loss, no way to overcome the daily tasks and be successful. It can look hopeless and never ending.
In order for one to regain a personal feeling of power over the immediate world, it’s important to focus on one task at a time or one goal.
Ah, you say, you have no more goals left…. Get some. Make something obtainable as a goal. “I will get out of bed.” “I will go to the store and get groceries.” “I will go through my office paperwork.”
Pretty simplistic, yes, but it works. Once you have one small goal down, do another and then another. Build on the goals until you make a real difference in how you feel. Pretty soon you will see all those small goals are leading to a bigger goal, regaining your Power.
Even if it’s been years since the initial loss of power and you’ve managed to regain some ground, the feeling of powerlessness can rear its ugly head and you are back to square one trying to regroup your thoughts and actions.
Sounds absolutely hopeless, doesn’t it? It’s not. It’s up to you and your ability to survive.
When you have a setback, like something major went wrong at work and it was your responsibility. It can feel like you’ve been kicked in the gut, but remember, this is not the worst thing you’ve had to face. Like the personal loss you’ve had to overcome, this can be lessened with time and hard work on your part. Take ownership of it and try to prioritize your steps to regain your control of the situation. Begin making those goals again.
If you find the situation completely out of control, take time to step back. Reexamine what and why you are doing what you are doing. Be brave enough to make a change if needed, but take the time to make sure that’s what will be in your long term best interest. Ask for help when needed, it’s not a sign of weakness!
Pace yourself. You are your own best judge on how much you can reasonably handle.
Share with those around you if you feel overwhelmed. Perhaps there is some delegation of responsibilities that needs to happen until you can get back to 90%. Don’t expect to be able to maintain what you had before the loss; your life is different now, you are different.