Generation curses are usually only discussed as a passing thought for family struggles because it exposes a commonality in the not-so-great qualities within a family. It is the qualities that continue to bind families or family members from forming a solid unit with each other, the skills for overcoming obstacles or the need for letting go of the past.
The first thing that comes to the mind of many regarding generation curses is the hexes and voodoo’s of someone deliberately casting a “spell” on a family that will affect the future of the children and the children’s children. But to the contrary, generation curses are much simpler and more subtle than that. Some elders of the family may believe differently and may even claim to have proof to otherwise. They may offer a story that could date back generations before but generally speaking, generation curses are the repeat actions, paths of life, common attitudes towards the future or characteristics shown for achieving success.
The strained relationship a mother has with her daughter today most likely didn’t begin with the mother of today. If someone ask the mother in the relationship what kind of relationship existed with her mother one will more than likely find some similarities in how she now relates to her daughter. The mother is merely repeating what she experienced. When a father is excessively aggressive in his relationship with his son, for example, he may feel it is his responsibility to ensure that his son doesn’t experience any luxuries that were not afforded to him growing up. The father often times relates the aggressiveness as a compliment to his parenting ability, even though he may discredit his father for similar treatment.
Each parent equally recognizes how the relationship makes them stronger but forgets how they wish their pasts were different. Most importantly, they fail to recognize how the estranged relationship only guarantees that the curse will be passed on.
Some families may suffer from more severe curses, such as physical or drug abuse; however curses are apparent in other aspects as well. Are all the men in the family absent fathers? Do most men in the family share unrealistic attitudes regarding entitlement? Do all the women migrate toward or away from relationships? Does each generation find difficulty achieving personal and financial successes? Others may find that their personal relationships or relationships at work suffer dramatically because of how they feel about what happens in their family relationships. Women who struggle in relationship with men, men who struggle in relationships with women will often time find that their siblings experience comparable struggles.
A generation curse continues because although each generation eventually recognizes the presence of one, no one is willing to acknowledge it or discuss it without finding someone to blame for it. It is safe to suppose that the “curse” occurred far in advance of the generation now in existence and the person to blame or hold accountable is long gone from judgment. The cure for any generation curse is simply to change its course. The curse began in one generation but can very easily end in another.