Relationships go through phases of good and bad periods, sometimes needing rejuvenation. This does not necessarily mean it is time for the relationship to end, but some spicing up may be needed.
Sometimes staying in your comfort zone for too long and too much can end the relationship faster and bore both partners.
“My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years, and although we have not taken the step towards marriage yet, he and I are still trying different moves to keep us feeling like this relationship is more alive than ever because sometimes we let outside stressors get to us, and it affects our relationship, so we have to make sure the focus is on our love, care for each other, and let the outside avoid getting in at times,” says Charlotte college student Amelia. “It’s been worth the fights, and long talks we’ve had to have regarding us and what’s important to us in the long run.”
Here are some suggestions for spicing up and to rejuvenize your relationship.
1. Cut Back on Calling Him
This can be overwhelming for a guy, as if you are constantly checking in to make sure he is doing what he says, following through on things, and making sure he is not doing anything he’s not supposed to be doing. It can be seen as controlling in some guys’ eyes. 20 Questions is not a game a guy tends to like. A little mystery is always attractive in a relationship, so allow more space and more unknown in your relationship. Not talking as much throughout the day can lead to better conversations at night or the next day.
Instead of being the one constantly seeming needy and having to talk to him so much, keep HIM in suspense, and make him call you or check in with you for a change.
2. Disagree with Him
If you agree with everything your guy says, what’s the fun in that? Not all arguments have to be ANGRY but cause a debate once in a while. If you stand your ground with your beliefs/opinions and interests, he will be more interested in what else you like and believe in vs what he does. Two people with the same thoughts, interests, opinions, is surprisingly boring at times, especially in relationships that are trying to grow.
3. Do Your Own Things, and Leave Him At Home
Space is very critical in relationships. You have to continue your independent life as well as have a life with him, but keep them separate. It’s good to get away from the togetherness by having a girl’s night out or some time alone out and about on the town. Get some breathing room in a sense. Being around him 24/7 might cause some overwhelming-ness in a sense. Things become routine, and it may drive you two apart, so be aware of how much time you spend together vs apart.
4. Confront him with Relationship Issues
Do not keep quiet if you are concerned with things regarding your relationship. Speak up and stand your ground. Being quiet and not voicing your thoughts and opinions tends to backfire and build up a lot of anger and emotions if you hold all of them in. Be sure to be yourself and make sure you are being heard.
5. Show Your Love
Be sure to express your love and care for your man in different ways. Do not be constantly doing the same gestures, treats, etc. but change it up and surprise him every once in a while with ways you are thinking about him throughout the day.
These are just merely suggestions but ones the pros follow. Keeping the love alive in a relationship is very important to focus on and make a priority.