Pressure from corporate America, universal preschool and the American Medical Association (AMA) all seem to be asking parents to assume tasks that push families further away from the purpose of the home office. Business owners aren’t the only ones showing signs of battle weariness. According to the Yale Child Study Center…
PRESCHOOL CHILDREN ARE BEING EXPELLED AT 3 TIMES THE RATE OF ALL THOSE IN K-12 COMBINED!
- Preschool children are three times as likely to be expelled as children in kindergarten through grade 12.
- On average, preschool boys are expelled at 4.5 times the rate of girls.
- African-Americans preschoolers are expelled at twice the rate of Latinos and Caucasians.
- 4 year olds are expelled at 1.5 times the rate of 3 year olds.
- Expulsions are about twice as common in classrooms where teachers have no access to outside expertise.
“Then He took a little child and set him in the midst of them. And when he had taken him in His arms, He said to them, “Whoever receives one of these little children in My name receives Me; and whoever receives Me, receives not Me but Him who sent Me.” Mark 9:36-37
Children who experience premature parental and spiritual separation may appear lethargic or overly active, and many perform beneath their potential in all areas of life. Most importantly, this level of strain will soon cause them to be left behind the coming global marketplace. The implications to our legacy for them are huge.
What can parents working from home do to avoid their children getting this stressed out?
Decide whether your work life also allows room for your family’s success. You’ll have to get your own emotions out of the way first. All the well respected business journals insist that working alongside a child is the equivalent of professional suicide. Are you so distanced professionally that your family has to scramble just to keep up? The best way to know the health of any family is by observing its weakest link. How are the most vulnerable around your home office fairing these days? Really? Try this 3 step formula when your child begins to share their heart. Clasp. Ask. and Grasp.
Clasp your hands behind your back or over your mouth in real emergencies. Listen carefully for childcare clues.
Ask permission to affirm your understanding of what you’ve just heard. Most of our communication is non-verbal giving you and your pre-verbal child an advantage.
Grasp your child’s unspoken meaning before responding. Did they just need someone to talk to? Were they looking for your feedback on an important matter? Or was it a simple test to see if you’d turn your attention from all that busy-ness to be available when they needed you most?
- Are you reacting the way teachers, doctors and the media think you should?
- Does your own history come up when you hear the tone of your child’s voice?
- Or are you listening for the heart of what your loved one is trying to convey?
Like David Logan, Ph.D., and John King tell us in the Coaching Revolution.
“You get what you listen for.”
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