A person can go through a lot of rotten eggs–and “duds,” in the dating world today. However, there can be even more rules, and many different kinds of “duds” in the world of online dating versus dating offline. If, say, you wish to go on a date, meeting a person from online, and you seem to have a good connection with them, yet they only want to hang out, “in your car,” or “at your house” be heavily forewarned. They want some booty, and nothing more, or they are already, in fact, married or in a committed relationship. These types of guys can be deemed the “Compulsive liar-cheater-player” types. Below is a funny story from a source about this particular species of male. After the story, a brief advice portion will be given.
She thought he seemed very nice. They had chatted online for a few weeks now, and he seemed to really understand her. So what was the harm? She was finally setting up a date and time to meet. Where exactly? She decided perhaps maybe grabbing coffee would be a safe bet. Dinner was nice too, of course, but she did not want to seem too forward.
“How about meeting at Denny’s in Clairemont?” He said.
“Umm, sure, I know where that is,” She said, rather nervously.
The time they set to meet was 7pm. She drove up and arrived at the Denny’s, waiting in her car, fidgeting, and fixing her hair constantly. He drove up in his car–blue, like he said. He looked a little different from his picture, but he seemed nice. He gallantly took her arm, “Shall we, my lady?” and walked her through the Denny’s double doors. He repeatedly told her she looked beautiful, and proceeded to try and rub up on her feet with his before they had even ordered. Then he told her how much he loved her feet, that they were exquisite. She sat through the whole dinner, (lucky girl, right?), while he continually made passes at her feet. He tried to kiss her after the dinner, but she pulled away and politely shook hands with him.
How to give the brush-off when a date goes horribly wrong (like the foot-fetish guy mentioned above)? First option is to leave early, and politely mention that it is just not working for you. If you suffer through it, as most people do in bad-first-dates, be polite, courteous, and kindly, and if he asks for that second date, say something vague, like, “We will see, have a goodnight. Nice meeting you.” You may consider e-mailing him later thanking him, and explaining that the chemistry simply is not there. These are a mere few suggestions.