#2: Online Dating
Though a tad unconventional in many ways, the second best place to find a guy in the Hampton Roads area is through online dating.
Due to the relatively small gay scene in the Hampton Roads area, lots of guys have come to rely on the relationships that they’ve found and maintained through online chat/ dating sites such as Chemistry.com and Gay.com. While online dating is the most often used in Hampton Roads, there are some risks associated with finding guys online.
Certain websites like Gay.com come off friendly at the surface, however delving deeper will expose a huge flaw. This flaw is especially evident if you plan on building relationships as opposed to casual sex. That’s right staying in the general chat room proves to be safe, but often private conversations take a sexual turn that most find a huge turnoff for the site. That’s why I recommend pay-dating sites like Chemistry.com if you’re looking to meet like-minded guys who are not just looking for a one time fling.
Another problem that comes with online dating is honesty. Given the opportunity all of us would try to create the “ideal self” in an attempt to garner more page views, right? Now this doesn’t mean that everything about the person has to be fabricated. In fact research has found that most people are actually honest in the “about me” sections of their profiles. But what happens when the person that you see in the picture isn’t the person you see in front of you?
In an effort to put their best foot forward, people tend to embellish with profile pictures. Keeping with the “ideal self” notion, we are more likely to show a picture while at our best. The problem comes when your “best” was 5 years ago or 50 pounds ago. So how can you be sure that what you see online is who you’ll be meeting?
Well after the initial connection is made and there is further correspondence, I would suggest swapping AIM or Yahoo screen names. They have a video feature which would allow you to see the person you’re talking to. Also one of the most popular video-conferencing programs out right now is Skype. With this program you can talk comfortably with anyone online from all over the world without charge. So what are you waiting for? Get online, meet some guys, and find a date. Just be careful cause there’s a whole other world out there and it’s cyber.