With the divorce rates in the United States being between 40 and 50%, it makes you stop and wonder if marriage is taken seriously anymore. Every time you pick a magazine, turn on the television or browse the internet, you are bound to hear about some celebrity’s divorce or rushed marriage. For example, everyone is talking about the engagement of Swizz Beatz and Alicia Keys and the divorce of The-Dream and Christina Milian.
Swizz Beatz was known for having an affair with Alicia Keys, while he was still married to his previous wife, Mashonda. Now that Swizz Beatz has officially divorced Mashonda, he and Alicia Keys are expecting a child together and they are planning to get married very soon.
Do they honestly think that their marriage is going to last? Why would anyone get married and start another family so soon after going through a very public and emotional divorce? You would also think Alicia Keys would be more aware of Swizz Beatz and his relationship patterns before deciding to settle down with him. If he cheated on his wife, the mother of his child, the person he decided to spend forever with, what makes Alicia Keys think that he won’t do the same to her? Maybe things will be different between them but entering a marriage that was based on infidelity is definitely not a good way to start.
Now as far as The-Dream and Christina Milian go, they rushed into their marriage. They were only together for three months before deciding to get married. Three months is not nearly enough time to decide whether you want to spend forever with someone or not. People don’t show their true colors within three months. It’s understandable to have those strong feelings for someone during three months of dating but more time is needed to truly learn about each other before jumping into a union that is supposed to be forever.
Just like Swizz Beatz, The-Dream had just ended a marriage before becoming involved with Christina Milian. Now they have a baby and they are going through a very public divorce.
Celebrity or not, marriage is supposed to be a sacred union that takes place between two people who love each other and want to spend forever together. Not to mention, it is also a union that is done in the eyes of God. Why walk down that isle and say those vows if you know in your heart that you truly do not mean them? Why get married if you already know that you are going to cheat? Marriage is supposed to be about commitment. You are supposed to want to be with that one person for the rest of your life; if you don’t feel that way then don’t get married.