Many couples would say that communication is the one key element vital for any healthy and long relationship, and they would be right. Utilizing communication is a way for couples to break those walls of “silent treatments”; instead of keeping things bottled up inside and seeing who will give in first, communication paves a new way for open talking that quickly resolves conflicts at hand.
Whether in the “real world” or in college, relationships hit their rough patches. Being human and prone to such things as arguing and persisting on his/her own way, certain fights and arguments begin with a small issue that usually ends up snowballing into a heated debate. Even more so, couples don’t immediately go for the idea of sitting down and rationally talking about the problem. Why? Because couples instinctively and automatically put up their defenses at the first sign of a fight that may put either one of them at blame. Unfortunately, this is a human trait that everyone possesses. However, those defenses can easily be taken care of by communicating honestly and entirely because they enable each partner to open up in such a way where they know they will not become vulnerable and potentially subject to heartbreak. Communication does this in many different ways, but the most important way in which this is accomplished is by preventing assumptions.
All couples know, young and old alike that the worst thing in an argument is when another person makes an assumption that is then spiraled out of control by further arguments. When told, an assumption can hurt and insult a partner in a relationship, and even more it can become a difficult thing to disprove. Trust is put up for questioning, and before they know it, the couple has gone from a silly argument to a full-blown fight that could potentially destroy their relationship. Once again, the remedy is communication. It is vital to put all the assumptions to rest, lower the defenses, and face the problem head-on and together. Only then is the couple able to rationalize the problem, not justify it because that only propels the argument further.
Relationships get better with experience and time, and couples get better at managing their arguments and dilemmas just the same way. If both partners, whether they have been together for years or have just begun seeing each other as students learning about love and all that goes with it, learn how to utilize communication in their everyday interactions with each other, their relationship will blossom and they as individuals with it.