Eminem has always been an artist to stir up controversy. At times the controversy is like looking at a wreck, you can’t help but want to pay attention. He has returned with his Recovery album, which was released in June of this year and from the lyrics of his already two hit songs, ‘Not Afraid’ and ‘Love The Way You Lie’, it appears that he is back in raw form.
For those who have yet to see the ‘Love The Way You Lie’ video which features Rihanna both on the track and in the music video, they are missing out on what Showbiz Tonight (as well as other media outlets) have already discussed as a glamorization of domestic violence.
Domestic violence is not uncommon. (*74% of Americans know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violece.) Neither are the tumultuous times that a relationship can encounter, whether it reaches to a physically unstable level or not. I’ve heard people discuss their relationships as, ‘when it’s good it’s really good, but when it’s bad it’s awful.’ That’s not glamorization, that’s reality.
Often times when in such a cycle of a relationship, when the rollercoaster of emotions is overwhelming, it’s hard not to equate the intense emotions to the passionate love the people in the relationship feel towards each other no matter how harmful they may be.
In Eminem’s music video, you can see this harmful cycle played out by Megan Fox and Lost’s Dominic Monaghan. They alternate their relationship time between fighting and recovery. There is an especially artistic shot when after a fight, he breaks the mirror and the couple looks in the mirror together, she looking over his shoulder. In this moment, they are literally looking at their broken relationship together. And yet, still continue with the fight.
In a relationship, there will always be ups and downs; however, one of the goals is to keep progressing towards a happy future. Whenever a relationship contains a negative cycle, it becomes a habit, making it harder and harder to determine what is love and what has just become the norm. The norm does not always mean it’s acceptable. And a relationship isn’t always better than being single.
The fact that Eminem has used his creative ability to produce lyrics and a video that speaks to the intensity of relationships and where the sparks of passion can lead if not recognized as harmful patterns really makes his video one to be considered and not censored. By opening up conversations about very serious relationship topics in this way, it creates a voice for those who may not have be ready to speak up or more importantly, it creates a lightbulb to go on in the heads of those who need to.
Visit San Diego Domestic Violence Council for more information regarding domestic violence, the statistics, and what you can do to become involved to raise awareness about this issue.
*statistic from Domestic Violence Resource Center
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