To live the 3D life – discovering, developing, and displaying to the world all that was put into us when we were specially designed in creation, we must come to see who we really are and who we have the potential to become. We will never be able to make our way through the maze of mediocrity to discover and walk through the doors to our destiny until we see reality as it really is. To live in 3D, we need passion and purpose, but that is not enough. Without the proper perspective, life is just an illusion and destiny is illusive. To achieve our destiny, we need to perceive reality as it really is.
This past week, this truth has been all too evident to me. In one 24 hour period, I worked with all my heart to help three couples to resolve their conflicts. Painfully, I realized that their combined conflict of 65 years was not going to be solved overnight. I care about these three couples and I love being a peace-maker, but in each of the three relationships, little peace was to be made. As I thought of the consequences of their conflict in the lives of their children, grandchildren, and others, it brought pain to my heart, and I didn’t feel too blessed. In the end, I realized again that if each of these people would simply be able to see themselves for who they really are and how they act, the conflicts would be resolved and the relationships could be reconciled overnight.
Why is it that people are angry and insist that they are not? They speak harshly and rudely to each other and don’t realize that gentleness and kindness would make the world and their relationships much better. Why are people unable to forgive each other and let go of their bitterness and fear that destroys their relationships and potential? It’s a tragedy and it keeps them from fulfilling their destiny in life. If they could only see themselves objectively, clearly, and accurately, they would be sorry for those they have hurt and they would begin to change.
If we could only see things as they really are, we would be so different. We are blinded by our pride, resentment, and selfishness. We need to lay aside all of these, see life as it really is, and value and accept people as they are. Until we see ourselves clearly, we think we are better than other people. Once we see ourselves more clearly, with all our flaws and deficiencies, we become more humble, changeable, gracious and kind. We stop seeing ourselves as the victims and realize that we are also victimizers of others. We then see how we need to change and grow, and we begin to listen to how others feel. When we begin to understand how we have hurt or disappointed others, we humble ourselves, serve them, and do all we can to let them know how valuable and loved they are. We can only do this when our perception of reality changes.
Real change only takes place when our eyes are opened to see ourselves and life like we’ve never seen it before. Are you willing? Quiet introspection, reflection and meditation enable us to see ourselves as we are and to see and accept others as they are. Ask your loved ones to tell you how they see you and how they think you see them? Open eyes, ears, minds and hearts will open up the doors to your destiny like never before.