As humans there is this intense need to have control. Control is the spark that ignites most arguments that span between individuals, groups, entities, and nations. We all seek to have control at some level, because control is power. Therefore, it is a great human quest to seek control.
Control is what leads one into feeling safe and secure. It brings stability and comfort by its nature. There is an overriding belief that one can control one’s environment, family, marriage, kids, organizations and more as humans. Furthermore, there seems to this stride for control. In fact, it becomes the means to an end that is being sought which includes: safety, security, comfort and peace. However, control is just an illusion.
The truth is the only control one can have as a human is the control over oneself. One can only control how he/she interprets his/her environment and how he/she will respond to it. That is it: the only true control is over personal behaviors and self.
Why can’t the human race have the control that it seeks? The problem is there are many more factors at stake than human control. Entities such as biology, disease, nature, happenstance, economics, governments, death and other people hold control that cannot be avoided or contained. Humans cannot subdue an earthquake, hurricane, or tornado. Humans cannot annihilate many biological diseases such as cancer, diabetes or MS. Humans cannot crime proof each life so as to never be affected by a criminal. Humans cannot control other people, their responses or their actions.
As individuals one may be able to take precautions in his/her life to help reduce personal risk, but one cannot eliminate this power. There are forces that have an element of control over that cannot be contained. At any moment in time, anyone may fall prey to an element of control that he/she never was prepared for. Life is fragile, circumstances are fragile, and human control is very limited.
This sounds kinds of hopeless, but it really isn’t. It just speaks that one cannot allow oneself to get wrapped up in the illusion that he/she has absolute control over one’s life. Life must be handled with care and caution. When something that has true control sneaks up, one of the most devastating affects is the realization that one really did not have the control that he/she believed he/she had. The loss of control, although unrealized, is a devastation like no other. The only real control truly given is the power of: self to interpret subjective world, personal choices, and responding to individuals and situations.