Written by Sandra Ferrara Gentry
Do you think your marriage can survive raising teenagers? Here are a few questions to ask yourself and your partner that may shed some light on the answer.
1. How well do you REALLY know your teen?
2. What is your teen’s favorite color?
3. What are your teen’s favorite television shows?
4. What social websites does your teen visit on a regular basis?
5. What is your teen’s best friend’s name? Where does the best friend live?
6. What is your teen’s boyfriend/girlfriend’s name? Where do they live?
7. Do you believe your teen trusts you and your partner enough to tell you the complete truth?
8. Where does your teen “hang out” when with their friends?
9. What are your teen’s favorite foods?
10. Do you know if your teen is sexually active?
11. Do you know if your teen has experimented with drinking or illegal drugs?
12. How do you know when your teen is lying?
13. Who do you think your teen would turn to if in trouble?
14. Do you think your teen respects you?
15. What type of music does your teen listen to?
16. What clique’ is your teen in?
17. Would your teen tell you if they were in a gang?
18. What are your teen’s talents or main interests?
19. What do you think your teen would say if asked what type of parent you are?
20. Is your spouse on the same page with you on family house rules?
If you know the answers to most of these questions, you’re on the right track. If not, you need to remember a few key points for keeping the peace:
• Know which battles are worth fighting over with spouse and teen
• Deal effectively with conflict-fight fair with teens and spouse
• Don’t bring up their past or embarrass them
• Keep your sense of humor!
• Remember to set aside some intimate time with spouse
• Share your hopes and dreams with both your spouse and your teen
• Don’t keep secrets about your teen from you spouse
• Show your teen a little respect, they most likely will return it in kind
“Studies show that family communication, a strong relationship with one’s mother, and parental monitoring are really effective at preventing a large array of risky behavior.” (Principle investigator, Roy Oman, Associate Professor at the OU college of Public Health, article by associated press –www.tulsaworld.com)
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