Personal boundaries are the prerequisite for all healthy relationships. In fact, healthy relationships require each person to establish and maintain individual/personal boundaries. All too often, people enter into relationship with others out of weakness and incompleteness which is part of the formula for an unhealthy imbalanced relationship. People who enter into relationships out of completeness with healthy personal boundaries end up complementing one another while bringing many positive attributes to the relationship which results in healthy and balanced relationships. This allows for relationship longevity and higher satisfaction.
Furthermore, the concept of personal responsibility is a foundational aspect to healthy relationships. Personal responsibility areas are outlined as: self- monitoring, valuing oneself and others, understanding the importance of separateness, viewing others as individuals, allowing others to have experiences, giving freedom to be/do different, and improving oneself.
Personal values are a direct correlation to the health of interpersonal relationships. Healthy boundaries should be established through one’s personal value system. Some values that have been identified as beneficial to relationships are: commitment, security, honesty, faithfulness, trust, empathy, and forgiveness.
No one in any relationship is perfect; therefore, relationships can be summed as being: imperfect people who choose to share life with other imperfect people and experience connectedness on some level. An important concept to fully comprehend in any relationship is that one person cannot change another, one can only influence another person; therefore, it is important to maintain personal boundaries even through conflict and/or resistance. Boundaries are rooted in an internal locus of control/ responsibility which is the fertile ground for relationship health and personal growth. Also, because they are not written in stone, personal boundaries can change as one grows and matures. Boundaries are not meant to become shackles and should never be used to control or manipulate others.
All too often people fall into the trap of allowing others to control who they are and what they do. The concept of boundaries brings safety and security while allowing people to have a voice and the freedom to be an individual. Personal boundaries are imperative for healthy/balanced relationships including: parental, sibling, spousal, friendships, intimate partners, professional, or any other type of relationship.