Breaking up isn’t easy. Whether it was infidelity, a really bad hygiene issue, or you just grew apart. Whatever the reason may be it is better to end it graciously with a proper goodbye as how you confront this tough decision may be to your benefit in the long run. Not only will you avoid the bad reputation that comes with doing it the insensitive way but it will also speak volumes about your good character. If anything maybe you will just feel better knowing you manned up and did the right thing. If you already follow these tips, kudos to you! If not, please read practice and karma will thank you!
Do it in person. If you were curious, it is NOT okay to breakup over post it, facebook, myspace, twitter, text, email, or even via phone if you can help it. Yes it’s scary and yes it’s uncomfortable but this gives both parties the opportunity to start the process of getting real closure and moving on. Better to get it done the first time around than let it drag on.
Do not date another person while you are still with your soon to be ex. Step up and end your current relationship first. It’s not fair to him/her nor is it a great way to start a new relationship with old baggage still at your doorstep. You will likely regret it if either the new or old flame finds out.
Be honest and listen. More than likely the break will not be as clean cut as you would probably like especially if this was out of the blue. Your ex will have a barrage of questions or other things she/he wants to get off their chest. Be truthful in your response, “it’s me, not you” is vague and open to so many interpretations. You are breaking up with him/her for a reason, whether they are too clingy or the chemistry just isn’t there. Be honest but kind in your delivery, they’ll appreciate it later on and respect you for it.
Find a neutral place to meet. It is not fair to have him/her meet at your place to deliver the news nor would it be appropriate to meet at theirs either. It’s too personal and intimate of a place with shared memories. Restaurants are not recommended either as worst case scenario you may have a scene on your hands. Imagine screaming, crying, and drinks spilled on your lap. Find a park that’s not too busy and meet him/her there. Take a walk or grab a bench with the ex and be ready stay there for a while if need be.
Ultimately what matters is that you breakup in a way that you would want someone to breakup with you if the tables were turned. Chances are you will have a lot of opportunities to do so before finding someone worth sticking around with so you’ll have plenty of practice. Successfully play the dating game by following these few simple tips and attract others who won’t leave your name on their twitter feed.
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