Are you are feeling less than adequate in your current life situation, like you have so much potential that has yet to be released? Do you dream big, yet see that things are moving too slowly? Does it stress you out that life is not coming together the way you had always imagined? Still waiting for for opportunity to knock on your door?
Contrary to popular belief, the stress you are experiencing is not a result of the lack of changes in your current life situation. Understand and realize one thing: the change is YOU. Mahatma Gandhi said: “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
When you are where you need to be, when you are happy, content, focused, detached and stable, acknowledging where you are in your life situation questions will be answered, paths will be paved, the road will be clear, the doors will open. And opportunity won’t just knock, it will steamroll the door.
The key, however, is that your desire be sincere. The sincerity of detachment, humility, of contentment, and true joy. You must not only accept your life situation but embrace it and that change you wish to see will come. You will embark on the step-by-step process that addresses your entire being; allowing you to get over the hindrances of the past and move forward into the life situation of your dreams, where you deserve to be.
How do you accomplish this?
In three easy steps:
- Deal with it
- Get over it
- Move on
DEAL WITH IT:
Recognize that, for example, your boss just said something that completely annoyed you. Rather than react or let it simmer, walk away and process it. What did she say? How did she say it? What were you feeling before/during/after you went to her office? Understanding what it is that triggered the annoyance and frustration is how you are ‘dealing with it’. Address that. Address what it is that triggered it and work on ways to eliminate it.
GET OVER IT:
How does what your boss said really affect you? In the long run, will the fact that she asked you to do something menial and outside of your job description really be a major distraction in your work? Could it be more of a blip? Do you see the need to focus on the greater picture? Getting over it is the response to dealing with it. When you figure out what it is that triggered you and why it triggered you (did you forget to eat lunch, did you stub your toe, do you need physical intimacy), only then can you get over it. Only then does it becomes less and less important in the grand scheme of life. In fact, the next time you go to your boss and she asks you to do the same thing or something very similar, it won’t even dawn on you. You may recognize that it’s something by which you have been frustrated in the past, this time, suddenly, possibly inexplicably, it’s nothing.
‘Abdu’l-Baha says: “I will no longer dwell on the unpleasant things of life.”
Unpleasant things can come from a combination of many things in life; everything from needing to put petrol in the car, canceled evening plans, to emotional attachments, forgetting to pray, missing a meal, among numerous other things. When you move on, in the purest sense, you no longer even consider those as reasons to dwell. There is no reason to play out the menial tasks that you wish would just happen on their own over and over again in your head as you search for a better response, wish for a different job, a newer car, a bigger home, etc. When you can complete these tasks without a second thought and continue about your day, you have moved on. Good job.
Congratulations! And welcome to your new and improved life situation, accomplished in three steps: deal with it, get over it and move on.