Change is one of the few things we can count on, though it seems we can never be sure just how it will happen, or when. So when things start feeling overwhelming and you have the choice of fighting the shift of the world or of accepting it, maybe you’ll do a ritual something like this one.
A quiet space where you can be undisturbed
A clear crystal or some other focal point (a candle, a mandala– there are even ambient-noise visualization things you can download onto a computer or iPad now)
Something to represent all the elements, spirit, and your deity of choice
Sit in your quiet space with the lights dimmed or the curtains closed or far away in the woods so you only hear nature, and place the representations of the elements around you, marking the Quarters and forming the outline of your Circle. If your change is leaving you feeling ungrounded, it’s sometimes nice to mark the Circle between these representations with stones. Place the representation of your deity before you.
Sit comfortably in the center and focus on drawing in the grounding power of the earth, the flowing power of the water, the moving power of the air and the revitalizing power of the fire. Imagine that they all twine together around you, forming a safe bubble built on your own terms and feeding you their strength and flexibility. You’re building a solid place for you to go when things get too hectic and you’re sure you’re going to cave in. Take deep, slow breaths, breathing all the way down into your belly like you would in yoga class. With each breath, push out the fear and resistance and draw in strength and balance. You can do anything if you start from a balanced place.
When you’re ready, open your eyes and focus on the deity representation. Be sure to work with a deity you trust and know well, someone who speaks to you and how you think. Ask them to join you and help you through this rough time. Ask them to show you the way to the best possible outcome. Ask them to help you embrace the adventure that always comes with change and to help you not be too afraid to do so. Ask to be like the reed, bending but not breaking, like the stone, solid and sure. Ask to have the power of change like fire and air, rather than being destroyed by them.
Ask for specifics– voice exactly what you’re afraid of, and keep calm and quiet afterward so you can hear if you get any answer. Deities rarely speak through burning bushes and voices from on high anymore: you’ll have to listen for stray thoughts that hold the answer crossing your mind, or for sudden clarity that lets you see the things you’ve been missing before.
When you feel you’ve balanced enough, come back to the normal world and open the Circle, but keep a piece of that deep calmness in your mind so you can just close your eyes and breathe deeply and find your way back when you’re in the middle of something and you can’t see a way through.
Thank the deity, and carry something to remind you of this rite– one of the stones in your pocket like a worry stone, a little token of your chosen deity, a piece of paper with a mantra on it– it doesn’t matter what, so long as it reminds you to find your way back to balance and calm.
As you work your way through the change and the eddies of crazy that always come with it, keep your mind and eyes open for unexpected opportunities, and remember to stay as calm as you can.