It is very important to U.S. Marine Joseph Reney that his relationship with his wife, Trish, doesn’t take a step back during his year long deployment to Afghanistan. “Our love didn’t take a break,” he can be quoted as saying when asked how he has handled living worlds apart from his wife for the past ten months. While he admits he isn’t always good at putting his love on display, Joseph says that he has been more of a romantic since he was deployed. He says that making this extra effort in no way can replace actually being there but it will have to do until he gets to hold her, kiss her and be there everyday to show her just how much he loves her.
According to Joseph, he feels that the best way to show his love for Trish is finding time everyday to email or contact her in some way. “Not only does she appreciate it but it makes her feel loved,” he states in response to questions of how he has dealt with being apart from her this deployment. “I don’t always have a lot of time to contact her, but I try and she knows that I do and is very appreciative of the fact.” Sadly, Joseph knows that not every service member gets the opportunity to contact their loved ones on a daily basis and he has not taken this privilege lightly. Any chance he gets to show Trish that he is thinking of her despite everything he has going on overseas is an opportunity he takes full advantage of. There is, of course, two sides to every relationship and Joseph feels that his marriage to Trish has helped him to reach his full potential when it comes to being a good husband, friend and life partner. “I am truly loved and she helps me show her that she is truly loved,” he speaks of the overwhelming love and support that Trish gives him each and everyday.
Joseph does not stop there when it comes to sending his love from afar. Even though there is a sizeable distance separating them, the internet has given him the opportunity to send his wife his love in many different ways. Whether it be a random act of love or a special occasion, he has been able to send her flowers. He was even able to purchase a Tiffany’s bracelet for her this past July for their anniversary. “It’s not to say that you have to spend a lot of money to show your significant other you care,” Joseph reveals his wisdom behind sending such thoughtful gifts. He, however, feels that by putting forth an extra effort to show his love he has not only maintained the love they had but instead he has increased it.
The past ten months have helped both Joseph and Trish grow much closer. That’s not to say that they wouldn’t have grown closer had this deployment never happened but it is a credit to both of them that this match made in heaven has only grown stronger in his absence. Though the last two months will be just as hard if not harder when it comes to Joseph being separated from his wife, he will no doubt be on the lookout for his wife’s never ending rants telling of her love for him and he will no doubt be counting down the days until he can hold, kiss and show her that he loves her each and every day back home in California.