For those of you who gushed over Monday night’s episode of VH1’s “Behind the Music” with Usher Raymond IV, and reminisced on his days with TLC’s pop star Chilli and Tameka Foster, did you listen to the songs in the background? Have you ever listened to an Usher song and felt like he might as well have been talking about your current relationship situation?
Here are the top 10 songs by Usher that may fit the direction in your relationship plus a few tips on what you should do.
“How Do I Say“: This is usually the puppy love relationship and may feel more like lust than love. You could meet this person at a nightclub, a grocery store, a company meeting or anywhere else. But you’re feeling a little awkward about how to approach her, how to get her to communicate with you past the usual cordial conversation and even how to approach flirting with her. Your whole mission is to impress this person and hopefully have these feelings returned. The bonus Spanish lessons at the end of this song aren’t necessary for this encounter to work out.
“Pro Lover“: You may like this person for the moment, but you’re just not ready to turn in your player card. You’d rather be sex buddies and see each other whenever you both want to kick it, but you have no interest in making this relationship monogamous. You don’t want to hear anything about love or commitment. You just want to have plenty of mind-blowing, bed-rocking freaking. This relationship could work if you two are on the same page. If both of you can’t mutually agree on this status or if one person catches feelings, this relationship could lead to disaster.
“You Make Me Wanna”: This is the song that is the cause of frustration for everybody in platonic relationships with jealous partners. There’s always somebody who thinks you and your friend are secretly having sex or like each other romantically. Sometimes it’s true. Sometimes it’s not. But if your friend really does make you want to leave the one you’re with, decide whether it’s really worth it. Do you want to lose a friendship for a romantic relationship that may not work out? Do you sincerely feel like this friendship could lead to something even better? The saying goes “the best relationships start as friendships.”
“U Remind Me“: This is that situation when you haven’t let go of a previous relationship. Everything the new person does reminds you of the last person, and it’s pretty annoying. Part of the annoyance is that your ex is still on your mind, and the other part is wondering why do you keep picking the same type of people. This is an especially frustrating relationship if the next person reminds you of being with a bad boyfriend or girlfriend instead of someone who was good for you.
“U Got It Bad“: Your girlfriends will roll their eyes at you for talking about your new man nonstop, and your boys will avoid inviting you to locations where you’ll ruin their fun by constantly bringing up your new woman. You leave this person and immediately miss him. It takes you two an hour to hang up the phone with the “you hang up first” comments and giggles. There will be kissing noises through the phone, plenty of public displays of affection and cuddling at any romantic place like the Chicago lakefront. None of this is a bad thing, and it’s awfully nice to enjoy another person’s company this much.
“Superstar” (or “There Goes My Baby“): The song is metaphorical, and although real-life fans may connect to it more, it is possible to be this person in a relationship. Not only are you two friends and romantically involved, but you will go above and beyond in this relationship. You can’t wait to see this person, and you have zero problems with being your partner’s “groupie.” You wouldn’t think twice about jumping on Lake Shore Drive, riding it out to I-57 and spending all your money on gas just to see this person for a few minutes. You genuinely admire this person and want your partner to know just how special she is. When you’re around your significant other, you feel like her number one fan and want to be the biggest supporter and lover you can possibly be.
“I Can’t Let U Go“: This is the relationship that will wear relationship columnists, your friends and your family out from trying to give you advice. No matter how bad the relationship is, you just refuse to leave. Your girlfriend has a nonstop attitude, and you’re always running out the door to avoid conflict. You two are arguing nonstop but run right back into each other’s arms, sometimes because you just don’t like being single and lonely. Othertimes it’s because you genuinely love this person and really want to make a dead relationship work. There are a lot of break up to make up moments here.
“Burn” (or “Papers“): Unlike “I Can’t Let U Go,” you really do get out of this relationship. You’ve done everything you could possibly do, and it’s just not working out between you two. But the pain of separating from someone you had an intimate connection with makes you wonder “Is love supposed to hurt this bad? This is ridiculous.” This is the breakup that’ll leave you thinking all food tastes either really good and you overeat to compensate or everything tastes terrible and you don’t eat for days. A shower is optional. Every time you look at the phone, you kind of wish this person would call and you scowl at the phone when it’s really just your mother. You love Mom, but that is not who you wanted to show up on your caller ID. Your friends go from being sympathetic to hopeless to frustrated and hope you snap out of it soon. You just want to hurry up and be over this heart break.
“Truth Hurts“: This is when instinct starts kicking in. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is taking entirely too much time to get ready for work or to go out with friends. She’s coming in smelling like Usher VIP cologne and he’s coming in reeking of Usher She perfume. The sex is starting to diminish, and you’re pretty positive your partner is trying to be a player and doing a terrible job of hiding it. You just want answers, and you have zero interest in any lies or “what had happened was” stories.
“Confessions (Part 2)“: The lyrics might’ve been about producer Jermaine Dupri, but he’s not the only one who’s been in this situation before. This song is actually a prime example about why sexual partners should use protection at all times, specifically so they don’t potentially spread any STDs to their partners. Next in line is the hurt that goes with finding out that your lover is going to father or mother another person’s child. Good luck with making this relationship work and regaining trust. Please do not get on “Maury” and make a fool of yourself though.
So which type of relationship are you in?